The battle between the sexes has been longstanding. But perhaps there is another way emerging as we begin to reflect on concepts of integration.
Balance is central to integration. And as such, there are four philosophical concepts on balance worth meditating on:
- One by itself cannot exist – there is always a second part in existence.
- A sense of Equality – we are not the same but are on a polarity see-saw.
- Energy Creation – when two things come together to create something beautiful they couldn’t normally create on their own.
- A counterpoint avoids a Breaking Point.
If we are to use what we know to create and grow then it would bode us well to set aside our egos and explore the beauty we could create when we integrate our best sex assets and qualities. In psychotherapy, integration is:
“…the process by which a well-balanced psyche becomes whole as the developing ego organizes the id, and the state which results or which treatment seeks to create by countering the fragmenting effect of defense mechanisms”.
Undeniable evidence has provided us with the hallmarks that tell us when our collaboration is working for us or not. Neuroscientist Siegel says, the characteristics of when a harmonious flow created by a balanced integration is when something is/(we are):
- Flexible
- Adaptive
- Coherent
- Energised
- Stable
The willingness to suspend belief and to shift our perspective is when we are truly gods – masters of our universe, forging our own destiny, creators of brilliance!
by Hope Bastine
Hope Bastine is a game changing psychotherapist. A barefoot child of India, she understands the compass of cultural diversity. Born on the foot of the Pyrenees, raised in India, and consolidated her education in Europe, she is a Third Culture Kid. But what has been her constant in the face of an ever-changing environment is her spiritual practice. After having trained as a neuropsychologist, Hope went on to teach psychology. She has now set up a London-based wellbeing company, Fresh Perception, offering spiritual psychotherapy, Mindfulness training, and holistic retreats. She is currently researching her thesis on the personal growth of Meditation and Yoga.
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